Carl Jung said “the most terrifying thing is accept oneself completely”. I also believe though once you overcome that terror, embrace all the perfect and imperfect things about you, the sense of freedom, peace, acceptance, drive, determination and certainty is priceless.
Knowing yourself is important in relationships because everything that happens to you, every one you attract, is a reflection of what you believe about yourself.
You cannot outperform your level of self-esteem. You cannot draw to yourselves more than you think you are worth. So take time to:-
- Find out who you are.
- See yourself and your place in your relationships as it is, not worse than it is.
- Be aware of how you feel, think and act at all different times of the day.
- Accept yourself completely the way you are, what you believe, what you love and like and don’t like.
The relationship you have with yourself is arguably the foundation on which your other relationships are built, and credible studies are now supporting this view.
High self-esteem predicts better relationship satisfaction and less mental, emotional and physical illness.
People with self-worth appear to respond more constructively and positively during conflict or when challenges or pressure appears in their lives.
When was the last time you checked in…
- Are you your own best friend?
- What is important to you?
- What do you love doing?
- What do you like?
- What are you good at?
- What are your habits, good and bad?
- What emotional state do you allow yourself to be in most of the time?
- What don’t you like?
- What sort of people do you like being around?
When you can answer these, confidence will surely follow as you can be more mindful of your needs and what you would like to improve on in your life.
You will also become more trustworthy to others as they will feel and see that there is no ‘funny’ feeling about being around you as you are honest, genuine and self-assured. You are being yourself, not someone you think others will approve of. The only approval you need is your own.